grow you, grow them

The Dr. Vanessa Membership

A membership-only space for big people who are invested in the growing up of a child.

What if you were parenting from a place of connection?

Are you looking for ways to better connect with your child?

Do you wish that you could approach your child’s behaviour with patience and compassion rather than yelling and frustration?

Do you want your household to be more harmonious and less chaotic?

The Dr Vanessa Membership provides you with the foundation you need to take on parenting challenges, and to better understand the root of your reactions.

Have you ever experienced...

How great would it feel to know that you are the best expert on your child?

Or to feel confident in your parenting decisions, allowing you to enjoy time with your children more?

And to help your child navigate through their mental health struggles.


The Dr. Vanessa Membership

A membership for big people who are invested in the growing up of little people

What Does It Mean To Be A Part Of The Dr Vanessa Membership Community?

The Dr. Vanessa Membership is community of parents, grandparents, and other big people coming together to learn how to grow our kids in the best possible way.

We’ve all had days on our parenting journey where we react, we yell, our child matches our fire with their fire and suddenly – we’re caught in a battle that neither will win. The Dr. Vanessa Membership will provide big people with a catalog of resources to support their journey to parenting from a place of connection.

Your membership includes:


"Dr Vanessa has influenced me greatly both through her work with my family, and by inspiring my own therapy practice to follow her principles. Her developmental approach is exactly what this planet needs for our children."

– Devon Silvers, RCC

You don’t have to parent the same way you were parented - you have permission to be the type of parent you want to be for your child.

You don’t need hours of spare time a week (that none of us have lying around) to attend live webinars or trainings – you can go at your own pace, when you have time to dedicate your attention to bettering yourself and your parenting.

You don’t need to spend hours of time researching what is best for your child – you know what is best for your child and the Dr. Vanessa Membership will help empower you to know that  YOU are the best expert on your child.

are you looking to...

  • Have a calmer, more peaceful home
  • Turn your interactions with your children into opportunities to connect
  • Stop feeling guilt around your parenting interactions
  • Feel empowered knowing you are the best expert on your child
  • Feel a stronger connection with your child and yourself

The Dr. Vanessa Membership helps you get to a place of connection rather than frustration.

New content is added weekly, so you’re getting current, real life expertise from a counsellor, author, speaker and parenting educator – plus features from special guests and other experts in my community.

The Dr. Vanessa Membership will empower you to know that you are the single best expert for growing up your child

get to know me

Hi, I'm Dr. Vanessa Lapointe

 I’m a mom, counsellor, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. I have been supporting families and children for almost 20 years through my developmental clinic and work within community mental health and the school system, and I look forward to traveling on this journey with you.

My goal is to change the conversation about how we make the world go ‘round for all of the kids we are growing up.  I want kids to grow up in the best possible way. I want parents, teachers, caregivers, and other big people to know they are a child’s answer. I want the mysteries of brain development and the complexity of a child’s needs to feel totally conquerable. I want your kids to know that you’ve got this!

And I want you to know that it’s okay if it feels like it is hard. That’s just part of this. And we are here to figure it out. Together.

Why should you trust me?

My passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. I know that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way – and I have almost 20 years of experience working towards this.

I teach you the same strategies in this membership that I use for my own growing boys. 

I share the same messages that I provide parents I work with at my developmental clinic, The North Star Developmental Clinic. 

I pull from experience I gained working within my local school system and community mental health system. 

I build on the foundations that are discussed in my best-selling books and pass that knowledge onto you as a member.

The Dr. Vanessa Membership is the right place for you if...


New videos are added weekly, plus a new book club monthly.  We are constantly adding new articles, webinars and more so there is always something new to look forward to – just check your member hub for the most recent updates!

No! While parents make up the bulk of our members, we welcome all grandparents, teachers, childcare professionals and anyone else who is interested in helping to grow up our littles.

You may cancel your subscription at any time and it will remain active until the end of your payment period.  membership is an ongoing, recurring, subscription to the Dr. Vanessa Membership website. By joining as a monthly or annual member, you understand that the credit card information you provide upon registration will be charged each month or year on your monthly or annual subscription anniversary date until you or we cancel your membership.  Refunds will not be given for canceled memberships. 

To cancel your subscription, please contact

"Dr Lapointe has a unique ability to simultaneously teach parents new tools while helping us build confidence int he skills we already posses. Her focus on connection makes wonderful, intuitive sense and is an excellent approach to parenting any age of child."

– Lindsay F.

We’ve all been there - our child's behavior is setting our teeth on edge and we can feel our patience bubbling over.

We react.

We yell.

Our child matches our fire with their fire, and suddenly, we’re caught in a battle that neither stands to win.

When we parent from a place of connection, we are no longer concerned with “winning” a conflict with our child and are instead seeking to foster a strong relationship with our child. Our homes become calmer, more peaceful places, and our interactions with our children become opportunities to connect.

Our children are growing, and the sooner we can understand their struggles and connect with them on a deeper level, the more we can help them grow into the person they will be.

Join the Dr. Vanessa Membership today!

 For only $9 a month, you will gain access to exclusive articles, videos, the Dr Vanessa Show, a book club, as well as a monthly members-only Q&A! Or register for $99 per year and save the cost of one month’s subscription!